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Comment on 050 – How to Deal With “Edgy” Days by 104podcast

104podcast — Wed, 24 Feb 2010 21:51:45 +0000

Tony,

Thanks for your email. Looks like innergold.com is a good site. A lot of activity going on there. I’ll be following your posts and will check out your podcast. I encourage our readers to check it out too.

Your BLAST acronym is a good one too.

Jeff

Comment on 050 – How to Deal With “Edgy” Days by InnerGold

InnerGold — Wed, 24 Feb 2010 19:00:18 +0000

I just wanted you to know that I loved your anachronym. H.A.L.T.S.

We have one similar called B.L.A.S.T. (Bored, Lonely, Angry, Stressed, Tired) Keep up the good work. I have not read a lot of your posts but I am beginning to and you have learned valuable information that you are sharing.

Keep up the good work!

Comment on 032 – Listen – It’s Critical to Your Sexual Purity by 104podcast

104podcast — Mon, 28 Dec 2009 00:34:17 +0000

Thanks Dale for your comment. Keep it up, man! A good support system is critical to a strong recovery. Walk in the Light. Make sure you have people who know your story active in your life on a weekly basis, and whatever other steps you need to take. It’s worth it!

Comment on 032 – Listen – It’s Critical to Your Sexual Purity by Dale

Dale — Sun, 27 Dec 2009 19:15:51 +0000

I’m still in the “all about me” phase. Thanks for pointing it out. I’ve been sober since October 28th, and have built a great support system. Jeff and Marsha are part of that system. Thanks for all the insight and encouragement.

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Comment on 015 – Learning to Stop Sexualizing Realtionships by 104podcast

104podcast — Sun, 01 Nov 2009 16:31:33 +0000

So glad the podcasts are applying to your life! Some of the podacasts are humps I’ve been able to work through. Sexualizing Relationships is a “work in progress” for me. It was 20 years of building up bad habits for me, and only a couple of years now of working on the good habits. It is taking a lot of work for me to learn to develop healthy relationships with other women.

And like you, there are just some people we have to stay away from. Share about this with another guy (and your wife if you’re on that level) and keep it in check. Being a bit cold with this person might be a good help as well. Just don’t pursue any other type of relationship other than “hello”.

Praying for you, man!
Jeff

Comment on 015 – Learning to Stop Sexualizing Realtionships by Another one right in my wheelhouse

Another one right in my wheelhouse — Thu, 29 Oct 2009 04:11:13 +0000

Wow Jeff, these podcasts seem to come out right when I’m working on that specific aspect of my recovery. We are getting more integrated into a new church and a new area, and I know I can’t just hole up in my “recovery safe zone” forever. I feel like I someday need to be able to have professional, acquaintance, or even friendship level relationships with women, even attractive ones. Before my recovery began, those relationships were easy to have, but only because I was fantasizing or hoping for something sexual to happen. Once I was in recovery, I just had to stay completely away from anyone or anything that was triggery or tempting. And no matter how open you are about your addiction, it’s tough to tell a couple from church that you can’t have dinner with them because you struggle with lusting after the other guy’s wife! Like I told my group…”I can’t just hang around unattractive people for the rest of my life!” I am getting healthier in this area and one important thing that your podcast made me realize is how in middle school and high school, I would obsess for long periods of time over one or two really attractive girls. It hurt when my clumsy attempts to woo them failed miserably and publicly, so when I finally did have some “success” in the girls department, it was a really huge rush for me. So thanks for helping me maybe figure out some of my “roots”, and for allowing me to share it!

Comment on 013 – How to Work on Your Fantasy Life, Part 1 by 104podcast

104podcast — Wed, 21 Oct 2009 11:53:36 +0000

Thanks for your great feedback! Things have been increasing with the podcast.

Fantasy is such a difficult area to work on. Correcting our physical behaviors is much easier compared to retraining our mind. We have to give it time, let God fill our mind with His Word, and work on the “inside stuff” of our hearts. It’s all tied together. We heal from the inside-out.

Stay strong, brother!

Comment on 013 – How to Work on Your Fantasy Life, Part 1 by Oh such great tips!

Oh such great tips! — Wed, 21 Oct 2009 04:14:16 +0000

I have some work to do! Reading all those passages, praying about letting go of specific fantasies, and then writing out all the lies that my fantasies tell me…whew! But really, those are excellent ideas and objectives to help me in an area that has been crushing me lately. It sounds like the podcast is getting more and more attention, but if everyone else bails, you can know that your efforts are EXTREMELY helpful to me…and I’m passing it along. Oh yeah, I also like 1 Corinthians 10:13 as a good verse to memorize. Thank you Jeff and Marsha!

Comment on Episode 008 – Avoid Flirty Girls by 104podcast

104podcast — Thu, 08 Oct 2009 13:36:49 +0000

That’s a good point about the guys that influence us as well. Our peers. We grow up in a culture of objectifying women, oogling them, cutting dirty jokes. Good idea for a future blog!