SHOWNOTES FOR
EPISODE 051 (9:30 )
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It’s really helpful in our sexual recovery to know that we don’t have to stay where we are. There are different phases, or stages of recovery that every sexual struggler goes through.
1. Crisis Stage – This is when the bomb goes off. Your world falls apart. Shrapnel is spread everywhere. During this phase, you are in shock and dismay. You need a high level of attention and care to get through this tough phase. You need the presence of others more than you need advice.
2. Pick Up the Pieces Stage – You start taking inventory of what’s left. Many things and people are no longer in your life, and you grieve their loss. This stage feels worse because you are feeling the consequences and the waves of pain. It can get very intense. You need to develop strong support systems here. Presence is still huge, but you also need to start listening to others. Others can help you survive the waves and not feel hopeless.
3. Repair Stage – This stage is all about healing and working through the pain. You take the consequences, wounds, and broken things and start putting them back together. You spend a lot of time here nursing things. It is a delicate stage where you have to listen to others and work on things you’ve never worked on before.
Stages 1-3 require heavy attention. This is the time for counsel, ministry, friendships, and group to take place. Finding friends who will walk through the mud with you and stay close to your side are “golden”! These stages are about getting your life back to functioning.
4. Strength and Growth Stage – This is a great stage. You start to realize healthy in your sexuality and relationships. You start to see new things growing that have never grown. This stage requires a lot of encouragement and a little pushing to get you to new levels. You have established a good structure, and good health and you need to nurture it. An important principle here is that: Healthy things grow. You will start to experience this principle at this stage.
5. Maintenance Stage – You hit the maintenance stage somewhere in your recovery when:
- Your crisis is over
- You are having no relapses
- There are minimal slips
- A healthy sexuality is being established
- You have a healthy network of relationships established (support structure)
- You have developed a good offensive and defensive strategy
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