020 – The Undercurrent

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THE UNDERCURRENT
Inside of us we all have a swirl of emotions, wounds, experiences that drive who we are. I call it the undercurrent. It is the wave of stuff that drives our outward behaviors. I’ve listed some things that might make up your undercurrent.

1. Wounds – hurts of any kind that happened as a child, adolescent, or even now
2. Unmet Needs – lonliness, rejection, not feeling valued, held to a perfect standard
3. Abuse – things that were done to you
4. Sexual Experiences – finding your first porn mag, seeing someone naked, clicks on porn sites, girlfriends, boyfriends, sexual experiences, experimentation
5. Family Background – how your family responded to and talked about sexual things
6. Anger - anger over anything that you’ve held onto in the past
7. Stress
8. Hurt Feelings
   

 SOME PRACTICAL STEPS TO WORKING ON THE UNDERCURRENT

• Take a personal inventory – on a sheet of paper start listing your hurts; trace the roots of your sexual problem; write as much as you can
• Start journaling – this helps so much with the anger and feelings
• You need some skilled hands – counselors, ministers; people who are good and helping with the inside stuff
• You need some wise people – mentors and people who have been through it; go find them
• Call out to God for help – He is the only one who can help you with the deep stuff, the heart stuff; he needs to be Lord of the undercurrent

 

Resources
www.porntopurity.com  (Main Website)
http://porntopurity.wordpress.com   (Porn to Purity Blog)

 

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